Hey Mom,
I live in a large downtown apartment building.  My unit faces another building,
and every night over there a guy puts on quite a show.
He slowly takes off all of his clothes, lies down on the bed facing the window
and then proceeds to masturbate.
I usually turn my lights off about 10 pm, just before he starts this one act
performance, but I'm sure he knows I'm watching.
Mom, this guy is really hot, and I would like to get it on with him for real.
 We are both about the same age and I am considered good looking.
We have passed each other a number of times on the street, but he never
acknowledges me. Do you think I should make the first move?  I'm afraid
that just in case he's straight and doesn't know I'm watching he will stop
exciting me every night.
What should I do?

Dear Son,
It is possible your secret friend does not know you are watching.
 But, I doubt it.
From your description he is an exhibitionist.  The big sexual thrill
for him is knowing he is turning you on, and perhaps your
neighbors too.
The excitement is in that veil of unreality that separates you. If
you break it, the illusion and the fantasy are destroyed.
I'm afraid if you want to see the next and future episodes of
his show you will have to remain silent

TIPS
Cruising the Clubs

1. Choose a place. Consult your local gay newspaper or an
online guide to find bars in your area.
2. Choose a day. Note that some bars are gay only on certain
days of the week. Others have theme nights like "latex night"
or "hoe-down night." Dress appropriately.
3. Go to the bar, but not too early. Most places don't get going
until 10 or 11 p.m. or even later.
4. Unless you go to a neighborhood-type bar, expect to pay a
cover charge.
5. Once inside, take a deep breath and look around. Not as
scary as you expected, right?
6. Buy a drink. Be nice to the bartender -- he can be your
ally.
7. Choose your spot. Stand in a place where you can see and
be seen.
8. Be approachable. Smile. Make eye contact with others. Try
not to look like a wallflower, but try not to look desperate
either.
9. Move around. Mingle.
10. If someone seems interested, approach him and make
small talk.
11. If he seems interested in you, ask for his phone number.
If not, there are other fish in the sea.
12. Know when to leave. When the troll you saw on your way
in starts to look good to you, it's time to go home.
13. Remember, you're there to have fun, not necessarily to meet
Mr. Right (or even Mr. Right Now).

Tips:
1. If you can, go with friends. There's safety in numbers.
2. Don't drink too much -- it will impair your judgment. If you feel
the need to keep your hands busy, try a club soda or tonic
water instead.
3. The bartender has pen and paper if you need to write someone's
number down